6 Things You Need to Know about Your Boyfriend before Committing to Him
The idea of rushing into a serious relationship can be very tempting. You are so into that guy that you even start thinking he is the one. Before committing to him, you need to ask yourself several questions about him as a personality and a potential husband. The answers will help you look at your partner with a fresh eye.
Plans for future.
If you want to live in a big city with a lot of opportunities and your partner is dreaming of the peace and quiet of the suburbs or small town, be ready to compromise. You should clarify your expectations and make sure that you have compatible views on your future life together. If your plans don’t coincide, you should find a compromise. Otherwise, you run the risk of frequent quarrels about the best place for living.
His attitude to religion.
Love knows no religion but you both need to feel comfortable if your beliefs are different. You should know whether it’s necessary to convert to his religion before tying the knot or what faith he is going to impose on your children. Additionally, you need to make clear how his religion views the problem of contraception and birth control.
Thrift and generosity.
You need to figure out how he handles money and whether he is able to stick to a household budget. He throws money at entertainment and traveling but he is a total miser when you come to the store? The sooner you get to know his attitude to the finances, the better. You need to have shared views on the financial priorities and agree upon the order of spending money. Only this way you’ll be able to put money by for some important purposes and use it carefully to satisfy your common everyday needs.
His thoughts about becoming a father.
One of the most frequent causes of ending a relationship is the unwillingness of a partner to have kids. You need to discuss not only your readiness to start a family but also your views on parenting and upbringing. You can’t plan out the future in a great detail and well in advance, especially when it comes to the question of having children. At least, you need to know that you look together in the same direction.
How he treats his parents.
The psychologists say that the way a man treats his mother can indicate his attitude to his potential life partner. You can learn a lot from his childhood experiences so be sure to have a conversation that will touch upon his childhood memories. If he talks about his parents, particularly about his mother respectfully and gratefully, that means he holds women in respect and will be a good husband. If you find out that he is distant with his mom because she was uncaring or abusive, you shouldn’t give way to despair. This testifies that he knows what kind of woman he needs for himself and he doesn’t want her to have anything in common with his mother. What can be worse is a mother’s boy who can’t make a step without his mom. It’s very hard to live with a man who considers his mother’s opinion the only right one and always listens to what she says about his choice.
How he treats other people.
By observing how your partner treats other people, especially strangers who provide him some services (waiters, taxi drivers) you’ll understand his personality better. If he is tolerant and patient to a waiter who is very slow or an operator of a customer support service who can’t understand his trouble, it indicates that he can exercise self-control in any stressful situation and stay nice to people even if had a bad day. He will do the same in his relationship and you can be sure that he will not lose his temper at the slightest provocation but will try to smooth over the rough spots.
This article was written for GoDateNow.com.