11 signs that she scared to be in a relationship

16.10.2017

How Modern People See Relationships

Dating and relationships have always been controversial topics. When it comes to modern relationships, things get even more complicated with people being afraid to commit thinking that they have uncountable possibilities. Dating and relationships don't necessarily go hand in hand any longer. A relationship is no longer something that people seek while people continue dating because it is considered to be something obligatory as nobody wants to be lonely. How long does dating last and when does dating turn into a relationship? Nobody seems to know the line. Let's evaluate why things go this way by running through not so pleasant facts about modern relationships.

Online Dating

Digital era has changed a lot of things, and dating is no exception. Starting from social networks that allowed people to find friends from all over the world to dating sites and dating apps that allowed finding partners from all over the world. It would be irresponsible to say that online dating has no positive sides. It actually helps people find partners in our time-consuming era, where spending time on a date with someone you don't really know is deemed too risky. But online dating gave us the problem of multiple choice. When you use dating sites, you see thousands of prospective partners, which makes it harder for you to concentrate on one person. Most likely you will start chatting with five at once. All of the prospective partners have certain advantages and disadvantages, and you can't pick the right one. When it comes to dating apps like Tinder, everything is even worse. You know that if one date failed, you always have someone else on the list to date. As a result you don't take dates seriously. You stop trying to get to know your date mate better because who cares, you can always pick another one.

FoMO

FoMO or the Fear of Missing Out is the result of multiple choice and another negative side effect of dating in the digital era. According to the Computers in Human Behavior journal, the Fear of Missing Out is “a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent”. FoMO makes us see the quantity of dates as something more important than the relationships we can develop. That's why whenever you go on a date with someone you have found on Tinder, you immediately start thinking about when you will break up so you can go on and date others.

Fear of Commitment

FoMO often results in the Fear of Commitment. There are many reasons why we may be afraid of commitment. We may feel trapped or we may feel too vulnerable, but when it comes to modern dating, the main reason for the fear of commitment lies in the pursuit of something better. How can you stick with one partner when there are so many other possible partners that you can find via dating sites and dating apps? That's why we may often pass the possibility of finding our perfect match preferring to continue our unstoppable dating tour de force.

Signs That She Wants a Relationship but is Too Scared to Admit It

Now as you have learned about the fear of missing out and the fear of commitment, you can understand why your prospective partner may try to escape from you, even when it is obvious that you really like each other. Is there a possibility to stop her? Maybe, but first, you need to understand whether she has a desire to commit deep down in her soul or she merely likes you. In order to do so, check out our list of signs that she wants a relationship with you.

1. She Asks You a Lot of Question

Want the clearest sign that she wants a relationship with you? It is when she asks you a lot of questions about you and your past. She wouldn't waste her time on learning your detailed biography unless she was thinking about the possibility of building a relationship with you. Although those questions may seem casual, she is trying to figure out how much you belong together via them.

2. Body Talk

Pay attention to her body language, as it may disclose her intentions unbeknown to her. If she unintentionally bites her lip or touches her hair while talking to you every time she is talking with you, then it is a clear sign that she is into you and secretly want to commit.

3. She Plays Pranks

Pranks per se are not the sign that she wants a relationship, but if there is an “unintentional” physical contact while she performs pranks on you, then you are right on money. Remember how you performed pranks at school in order to attract attention of the girl you like? It works quite the same in this case.

4. She's Trying to Make You Emotional

If she tries to show her sexuality or tells stories that are aimed at making you jealous and regret the fact that you are not together – she wants to commit. Provoking jealousy is one of the signs that she wants a relationship, but is too scared to address it directly. The best way is to play according to her rules.

5. She Suffers From The Past

She delved into your past, and now she reveals her past to you? It turns out that once she was hurt by some romance in the past? It's a sign she wants a relationship. By revealing her past to you, she shows that she likes you and thinks that you won't act as her ex did.

6. She Has Doubts

While this may sound strange, but her doubts on whether you will work out as a couple signifies that she would like to commit. If she discusses it with you, she actually wants you to break all of her doubts by proving that you are her perfect match. Surprisingly, having doubts is a sign she wants a relationship.

7. Her Friends Joke About Her Feelings

One of the signs that she wants a relationship is when you hear her friends joking about her feelings for you. That signifies that she often discusses you with her friends, and quite possibly touches upon the possibility of commitment. Her friends are joking because she's discussing it with them while she should be discussing it with you.

8. She Teases You

She starts taunting and teasing you? Well, it is one of the signs she wants a relationship. By acting that way, she tries to hide the fact that she is into you. Teasing and taunting is not something typical of her? Well, it signifies that things between you are getting more and more serious.

9. She Takes You to The Family Event

She offers you to spend Christmas Eve with her parents? Congratulations! She is into you and she is really thinking about building a relationship with you, but she wants to have her family's approval before committing to you. It is 99% guarantee that she is yours.

10. She Wants to Meet Your Friends and Family

She wants you to get her acquainted with your friends and family members? If previously she showed no interest in people in your life whatsoever, and not she express interest in them out of the blue, then she is almost ready to commit. She wants a relationship with you, but she wants to make sure that she will fit well in your life.

11. She Talks About The Future

You were talking about yours and hers past, but now she starts obscure conversations about the future? Well, she is definitely into you, and she is ready to start planning your future together. By discussing future, she tries to figure out how well you will work out as a couple. Here you must be careful, and you must be as honest as you can be. No matter how much you want to be together with her if your plans differ greatly and there is no possibility that you will come to some mutual solution, the best thing is to walk away. Your relationship simply won't work if you don't share plans for future.

Conclusion

We all have hoped that digital era would make relationships simpler, and in many respects it did. Now we can really find a partner from every town and every country in the world. The problem lies not in the era or the tools that we use to find a partner but in us. Sometimes it feels that we just don't like things being simple. We could abandon all the tricks and start being more straightforward with each other, but something like that is unlikely to happen anytime soon. So, what is left is knowledge to read signs of someone who is afraid to admit his or her desire to commit because of the past experiences or FoMO.