Should i double text?

03.07.2019

We tend to believe that modern dating is easier than it was a century ago, as it involves fewer rules and traditions. You can find a lot of people who cry over period dramas and then complain that nowadays people have completely forgotten that true romance requires certain rules. You can easily get the feeling that nowadays people think that modern dating not only has fewer rules than its period-drama-counterpart but has no rules at all. But those who think this way, probably have little experience in modern dating, as it is full of rules, with some being even more complicated than those a century or two ago. Let's take online dating. It often feels like online dating has more rules than a constitution of any country. Like people still cannot decide whether double texting is good or bad. And it's just a peak of an iceberg of online dating rules. Still, if you want to figure out more about online dating, the rule of double texting is a great choice to start with. So, let's figure out what is double texting and its rules.

What is Double Texting?

So, what is double texting and what's all the fuss is about? We had letters in the past, and then we had messages that cost around 5 cents. All in all, we had time, space and reason to make our text messages well thought out with almost everything we wanted to let the addressee know. But now text cost absolutely nothing, and you are most likely get annoyed by your friend sending you short messages containing from one to three words.

"For Christ's sake! Can you send me a complete sentence?!", you would shout out loud, when another sentence comes to you in ten or even fifteen messages. Cause it gets really annoying when someone can't type the whole thing in one message.

That's your typical chatting with your friends or a typical example of texting in bursts. We all do it from time to time. Still, it has nothing to do with double texting. Generally, you can come across double texting on Tinder or other dating sites or apps. You double text someone when you text them, and then, after waiting (generally, but not exclusively) for a short period of time, text them again without waiting for the reply. It doesn't seem like such a big deal, but as we've said before, modern dating, especially its online counterpart, has a lot of rules. So, you need to be extremely careful before you double-text someone again.

Is Double Texting a Bad Thing?

Now, let's find an answer to the question that you've might have got from reading everything above-mentioned. That question sounds like, "Is double texting bad?" Well, it's not always a bad thing, and it doesn't mean that you should never double text anyone. Still, you must take into consideration the impression that you may make on your chat mate. Here are a few examples of why you should avoid double texting.

1. Your Chat Mate May Think That You Are Too Intense

Yes, there are a lot of legends that a girl should never be double texting a guy, as well as a guy, should never be double texting a girl. It is believed that both double texting boys and girls are too intensive. Is that so? Well, maybe yes. Maybe no. But there is one thing you need to remember. If you've met someone online recently, and asked them how their day is, and your message is left without reply for an hour, there is no need to test them again. They will either reply to you or not.

2. People Need Time to Respond

Of course, we want our messages to be replied as soon as possible, but someone may be too busy to respond. Someone needs more time to write the answer. There is no need to get paranoid.

"U there?"

(5 minutes ago)

"U there?"

(1 minute ago)

"R U alright?"

(now)

Give them a break, okay? They need time to respond, and they may be as nervous as you are. And if you continue bombarding them with messages, you may simply scare them away. While modern dating may seem too fast, some extra fifteen minutes to reply is not a disaster.

3. They May Think You Are Clingy

If you are a frequent double texter, and you wonder why all the prospective relationship seems to end up rapidly, we are giving you a hint. Now, let's imagine that you've met someone online whom you really like. You are chatting for a few days, almost constantly (short lunch, toilet, and nap break excluded), then suddenly your text is left without a reply for an hour. What are you going to do? Well, if you are going to double text them, you can be absolutely sure that your prospective relationship is doomed. At least a few hours should past, but it is better to wait till tomorrow to start panicking. Otherwise, if someone will get thirty, "U there? R U alright? Answer me!" in a row, the chances that your prospective date mate will think that you are a clingy control-freak and run away are extremely high. So, you need to wait before you double text anyone.

How Long to Wait Before Double Texting?

Now, we are getting to the obvious question, "How long to wait before double texting?" The answer is – as long as possible. But generally, a few hours will be just enough to get the response that you want that badly. In 2017, the Hinge dating app scanned over 250.000 of conversations of its US-based users. This research showed that the best time frame is four hours. If your messages get no reply in four hours, you can easily text that person again. Double texting with this time frame allows you to make a good impression on your prospective partner. It shows that you are interested and care for your chat mate, but it doesn't show you as a clingy control-freak. It shows that you are interested in romance and in a prospective relationship, but still, you have some other things to do, except spending all of your time buried in the conversations on dating services. All in all, it shows you as a normal person who wants to date, and not someone maniacal who's desperately seeking a relationship.

So, wait around four hours before double texting anyone. No one is saying that it must be exactly four hours, as one hour more or one hour less makes no difference. The time frame in a few hours is your key of not making an impression of an obsessed double texter, and your prospective relationship will only benefit from it.