When Love is Not Enough: How to Recognize Signs of Incompatibility in Your Relationship

15.06.2023

How to find out incompatible in relationships? Relationships are not easy and sometimes very difficult. Nobody argues that they need to be worked on, but sometimes it happens that no matter what you do, nothing works out. Think about it; maybe you are just incompatible people.

Signs you are not compatible with your partner

• Vision for the future, values, and goals. For example, you dream of marrying him, and he is quite satisfied with weekend meetings. Or you prefer camping in nature, and he likes to "hang out" in the club. It is a mistake to assume that your partner will ever change. But if such a difference suits you two, then everything is in order.

• Miscellaneous libido. Do you need flirting, seduction, and long foreplay, and your partner immediately jumps into action? Then your sexual compatibility is in question. Or you need sex every day, and once a week is enough for him. Such incompatibility will sooner or later lead to a break.

• Humor. There is no humor in a relationship. It will help to overcome difficulties, to rethink seemingly complex problems. But if you or your partner does not accept the joke or is offended, such situations will sooner or later lead to distance.

• Attitude towards money. Consent in matters of spending money must be obtained at the very beginning of the relationship. If you do not find out how your partner feels about spending (accumulating) money, then you may be disappointed when you encounter rejection in this matter. Set your financial priorities right away.

• Different pace of life. The mismatch of rhythms can make adjustments to your relationship, and these can be clear signs of incompatibility in a relationship. If, for example, you are accustomed to a measured lifestyle, and your partner is constantly on the move, his life is full of events, then sooner or later, this will make you strangers. Unless you want to change, your rhythm or your partner will adapt to you.

What is compatibility?

This is perhaps the most important thing between two people. Compatibility is an indicator of how two partners think, behave, and perceive certain situations. It's good if there are points of contact in all these moments. In this case, the couple has every chance to build a joint future. And vice versa, if two people have different attitudes to what is happening, have opposite views on life, and mutually exclusive interests and opinions, then their story will end as soon as it begins. Perhaps there is nothing to be sorry about. The gap can be painful, but it must be experienced in order to build new, more promising relationships.

The compatibility of relationships between a man and a woman is called into question by several signs of incompatibility in marriage, which are a signal that a cardinal decision needs to be made, no matter how difficult it may seem.

Are my partner and I compatible?

• Nobody wants to compromise. The lack of desire to compromise on many issues is a clear sign that you are not on the path. If one of the partners considers exclusively his own opinion, then he does not put his soulmate in anything. They say that in a relationship, one loves, and the other allows himself to be loved. So: the unwillingness to compromise suggests that one of the partners loves only himself and uses the second only for the purpose of satisfying his ambitions. It also happens that both partners do not want to listen and hear each other. This is the most telling sign of incompatibility. It is quite clear that such relations have no future and cannot be.

• Different intellectual levels. The fact that both partners are of the same intelligence and belong to the same culture can dictate the course of the relationship. The term "intelligence" defines an interest in learning new things, a sufficient level of knowledge, education, and even a culture of expressing one's emotions. So, if you have successfully graduated from three universities, are developing in your chosen professional field, and your chosen one hardly received a school certificate, then you are unlikely to be interested in each other. Most likely, you will not have common topics for conversation. But this is not the worst. When you start climbing the career ladder and earning good money, and your companion (or companion) will lie on the couch at this time and release sharp phrases at you, conflicts will begin to arise. People who have achieved little in life usually suffer because of their own imperfections, blaming anyone but themselves for this. And be prepared to be the one to blame.

• Frequent quarrels out of the blue. Conflicts occur even in couples who have been able to build a stable and healthy relationship. Incompatible couples psychology says that during such quarrels, both he and she try to come to a common opinion. Controversial issues are resolved through peaceful dialogue and not by shouting and fighting. Psychologists say that such couples rarely quarrel over trifles: each is the master of his own emotions. However, when during the conflict, each of the partners is driven by the desire to prove their case for the sake of sports; this suggests that the relationship has no future. 

• Both partners keep their emotions to themselves. If you do not express your emotions just to avoid quarrels and, at the same time, hope that everything will change for the better one day. You can take this as a sign of emotional compatibility in relationships. If you desire to hide something, do not expect good. Ask yourself the question: Can you live your whole life closed in on yourself? This state of affairs leads to the fact that people remain single, even after having created a family. They suffer from misunderstandings and quarrels that arise on this basis.

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