Full Guide How to date a Russian Girl
03.11.2015
If you’re looking for dating tips, then you’ve come to the right place. We’ve collected all the “must-know” rules and trust me, there is not even a little chance for that girl to turn you down if you follow these rules. So, close all those useless tabs you’ve opened trying to dig out some fresh info on Russian dating and pay your entire attention to the following tips. They are one thousand percent effective as they’ve been tried out on Russian and Ukrainian girls.
So, here we start our 10-step guide.
1. Build a strategy
Let your love happen. It’s easy to say but not so easy to follow. If you want no disappointments - have no expectations, which is, knowingly, darn hard if you are strongly attracted to a charming woman. Before making a conversation and starting a relationship with a Russian woman, get maximally candid and tell yourself which way you want your communication with that lady to develop. Be honest, because that’s, probably, your only chance before the love game has drawn you into the flow (I think you can guess yourself that falling for Russian/Slavic girl is very easy).
Consider whether this is the right woman to invest your time in and what kind of experience you want to get. And as you’re moving from correspondence to the real date with a girl, you better get the first one planned, so it would give you two a space in-between to fill in with spontaneous interaction. First, mind the right time for asking the girl out – you both must be ready and eager. Second, pick the right place, it is important to find the venue where you and your companion will feel comfortable – that is the basis for an open and easy-going conversation.
2. Pay attention to your outfit
It is not a secret that Russian and Ukrainian girls pay much attention to the appearance, both their own and their partners’, so going out on a date with those ladies you must look your best – tidy and stylish, no torn or crumpled or dirty clothes are allowable. You mustn’t necessarily be dressed in a fancy brand apparel to impress your Russian woman on the date. In most cases, a simple and well-fitting suit or, if you like to dress casually, sweaters/shirts will make your image complete and accurate. Good perfume and decent shoes matter a lot as well, so take care of these elements too.
While composing your image, remember one important thing – it must not only suit you and feel comfortable to wear but also to be some sort of your extension, as that’s what attire is all about – the reflection of your actual mood and nature. If you are not sure about your style and what would look good on you and feel like needing some help, bravely go to the clothing store and ask consultant for an advice (they are usually pleased to do their job and help you) or ask one of your good-looking female friends to guide you – I’m sure you have a few with a sharp eye for fashion.
3. Mind your manners!
Manners are as important as your outfit as they’re what your personality’s dressed in. Courtesy is very important in your communication with ladies and it has even greater importance when you’re dealing with Russian/Ukrainian females. These girls love men to be the “men”. They’re attracted to the gentlemanly behavior as most of them (at least those you’ll meet using dating service) are extremely feminine. Mind your language! Number one rule for a gentleman, as your speech says all about what’s on your mind, is to start watching your mouth and learn to express your thoughts concisely and clearly. Provide your woman with simple signs of attention, like helping with the coat and chair as she sits down, opening the door for her and be polite. Always.
Another trivial but useful tip to give in this paragraph – mind table etiquette. Information on this topic can be easily found on the Internet and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to master at least the basics. It will refine your image a lot and help you win the heart of your lady by simply being a “charming ducky”.
4. Be yourself
Not much new here, right? And still, that’s, probably, the most precious advice you could ever get (though, sometimes, underestimated due to its frequent use). You see, there is nothing more impressing and satisfying than exposing your real nature and your genuine behavior. Of course, there are some basic social rules you should follow and those “gentleman tips” and other behavior recommendations we have given earlier, but they are nothing but accessories of your true self and you should remember to dispose of them as soon as you feel them trying to take over your nature. Imagine your identity as a highly respected guest that expresses oneself through your body. And let it voice freely and fully. That is the closest explanation of what the love to the yourself is. This kind of self-attitude will infect your girlfriend, so she would feel about you in the same loving way.
5. Be what she wants you to be
Of course, we do not encourage you to be hen-pecked here, though we strongly advise you to turn on all your senses in order to feel your woman and her needs. Since you have chosen this individual (and we assume you have serious intentions on this matter), invest some effort in figuring out what kind of person she is and what her interests and longings are. It is not even an advice here, it’s more like a reminding for you to pay attention to your companion and the sincere desire of convergence. Remember, the best way for you two is to be on the same wave. Things are not always dependent only on you, but the true intention means a lot. If you have one to be mutual, it’ll work for sure. Just keep in mind what you want this relationship to be and be brave and relaxed enough to discuss it with your date if you feel like it. That is pretty much of a tip to be given here. I’m sure you can easily nail it.
6. Play that gender role game
It is not the first nor the last time we mention the traditional nature and femininity of Russian and Ukrainian females in this article, though these two notions suit this paragraph most. Continuing that “be yourself” thing we have discussed in the subparagraph above, here we’d like to dwell upon that kind of behavior by making a gender-role play a bit more authentic and enjoyable for you to fit in. Just accept the role the society has endowed you with and by means of that release yourself from it. So since you have undertaken it, start playing your “male” part, because it will definitely be a huge fun with those womanly Russians and Ukrainians, because they stand on the extremely opposite to the masculine-type side. These ladies love their girlish parts, so they are practically made for the union with the strong males.
This kind of behavior is slightly grotesque, so it is clear that only the union can give you both freedom of multiform self-expression. Together you can actually complete the range and experience all that palette of human types both of you can be. Can you imagine, the whole theatre of personages played only by two. That could be something, just begin!
7. Make her a present
Making a present on the first date is a quite delicate thing to deal with, so if you don’t have anything specific on your mind, you’d better go for flowers. You see, the aim of a present is to represent your attention and to make a tender start expressed in the form of a memory gift. The best idea is some cute bauble that, though, has some particular sense. It may be something meaningful whether for you, for her, or something you were touching upon in your correspondence. Don’t try too hard, as small things sometimes are way more pleasing due to their simplicity. And, of course, totally forget about those pompous and expensive gifts – they are absolutely out of place if we’re talking about the first meeting. They may screw the things up by the awkwardness your woman may feel without knowing how to interpret such present. And again, if there’s nothing to come to your mind on what to give – get over it and buy a nice bouquet. It works even better.
8. Pay for dinner
Okay, I know that it’s the 21st century we’re living in, where emancipation and equality are quite popular notions, but before starting your inner riot (if one does, occasionally, takes place), ask yourself – what kind of girl you are looking for? And is equality about the payment at all? Or is it about the overt self-expression within the given (or chosen) role? Interesting questions, eh? They definitely are and we leave them for your personal consideration. Meanwhile, cutting things short here, I would firstly like to mention that Russian and Ukrainian females, that register themselves on foreign dating sites, are, generally, quite feminine in a traditional way and they expect you to behave in a manly way, even if you both clearly see that this is nothing but a game with its little rituals. So, if you decided that you want that feminine Slavic lady, be a chivalrous handsome male to please your date; and, by the way, it is, in fact, quite pleasant to be the one that treats, isn’t it?
9. Show your interest
Under this subtitle, we mean the attitude towards Russia/Ukraine in general as a phenomenon. Here we not only mean the territory or the nation, or culture, we suggest you to get yourself involved into a wholesome thing that you’d definitely face with while dealing with its element your Slavic friend appears to be. You see, people are called children of their nation not accidentally – they absorb and reflect everything that exists in their national code. So, in order to cognize your companion fully, you should learn something about her culture, language, traditions, customs etc.
Russians and Ukrainians are usually very proud of their nations, so by showing your sincere interest you may kill two birds with one stone: making an interesting conversation with your woman and letting her describe things from her perspective, as well as getting some new information about her motherland and her background. Since the family is a great point for discussion, it will perfectly well describe in full the character of your beloved. So, now you know everything you can touch on to get more connected with this girl.
10. Be sincere
This is the basic thing if you want to hang out with a Russian girl. You see, Russians and Ukrainians are very sensual and the art of expressing their feelings and emotions is a huge part of their culture and mentality. If you want to learn more about this nation (which is quite necessary if you plan to build a long-term relationship with your Slavic woman), you should learn how to express yourself and be honest and open about what you feel and think. These people have mastered the sensual sphere and your Russian girlfriend will most likely detect the lie if you try to conceal what’s on your mind. Expressing yourself within reasonable limits will not only become some sort of therapy, helping you release the emotional tension, but will also create an emotional connection with your partner which is, in fact, very important in any relationship. Drop that “boys don’t cry” cliché (crying, by the way, is far from the only way of an emotional expression) – this is so out of date! We all know that you do have feelings, so why don’t you admit and reveal them if you have that tremendous opportunity.
Dating a Russian girl: pros and cons
Pros:
1. A Russian girl is not only an ideal wife, but also a best friend. Any man who was lucky to date a Russian girl will confirm this to you . Do you dream that your wife shares your interests? Do you want her to watch matches of your favorite team with you or at least not disturb you? Or maybe you want her to understand your problems, give advice and support you? All this is real, my dear friend, if you marry a Russian girl. Their approach to life is not as "businesslike" as our girls have, it is more sincere and meaningful. Agree that this is a very good bonus to dating a Russian girl.
2. Family for a Russian girl means more than you can imagine. If most European and American girls "dedicate" themselves to careers, then to "fitness", then to useless diets, then Russian girls have clear and understandable priorities: first the family, and then everything else. Therefore, you can be sure that your time devoted to a career, does not go to the detriment of the family. A beautiful creature will take care of it and she was born just for this. But consider: if your actions harm the family, she will tell you about it. And even hinder you, if you do not listen to her words. Responsibility must be your second name if you want to be successful in dating Russian girls.
3. Do you want your children to have an ideal mother? You need a Russian girl. No man, even with the icy heart, will stand before the charm and warmth that exudes the Russian girl who has become a mother. Her love is enough even to stop a military conflict, but this is not necessary for anyone. The maternal instinct is more developed in Russian girls than in other women. They are brought up in the spirit of traditional family values and this makes them special. Once in Russia, some entrepreneurs tried to open a network of courses for future mothers. So, this venture completely failed. They remained unclaimed because Russian girls are ideal mothers created by nature itself. If know how to date a Russian girl, she will make you the happiest father ever.
4. A Russian girl is an ideal opportunity to get acquainted with a unique culture. Russian girls are very kind to traditions. They are well aware of the history of their country, folk customs and culture. This is a very interesting topic that will help you not only better understand Russian girls, but the world around. In addition, there is a big difference between Western and Eastern cultural values. You will be surprised at how interesting it is to learn about another view of life. It will enrich you as a person and awaken the researcher in you. Even if before that you were a boring devourer of beer. Russian girls dating can develop your personality.
Cons:
1. Language barrier. Despite the rapid leap in education that Russia made after the collapse of the Soviet Union, the Russians still speak poor English. The highest level of English knowledge is found among residents of large cities, mostly in Moscow and St. Petersburg. But if you communicate with a girl from another city, do not panic. Developers of online translators have already taken care of everything. Everybody knows how to use them, and even if it gives out an incorrect translation, you can guess what the meaning is.
2. Most likely you will not be able to build a real relationship online. Most men are used to rely too much on a tool such as a dating site. But it will never replace live communication, especially with representatives of a completely different culture. If you want to build a real, strong relationship, sooner or later you will have to leave the comfort zone that dating sites provide. Since you told yourself “ I want to date a Russian girl” you should be ready to leave you room.
3. Russian girls are very jealous. If during your joint walk a pretty girl poses for you, do not even think about staring at her. Otherwise your beloved will bury you alive. In addition, you too will often be jealous of her because all Russian girls are very beautiful and cause close attention of other men.
