How to Avoid Awkward Silence On The First Date?

04.11.2022

What to say in awkward silence? Do you often find yourself on a date and don't know what to talk about? Let's figure out what to do with it. First, find out how a person spends his time, where, and with whom. How does he rest, what does he consider to be rest, and what is he like: active or passive

How to break the awkward silence?

There are several universal topics that can be discussed on a date.

• Food. This is a great topic, especially if your date is in a restaurant or cafe. You can take the menu and ask what your interlocutor will order, what he likes from food, and what is his favorite food. In this case, it is better not to talk about dishes that you do not like. So you can put a person in an awkward position, and this is hardly what you want.
• Pets. This theme is very light and always causes positive emotions. Just make sure you know in advance if you like pets. If yes, you can not only tell but also show videos and photos, as well as remember some funny stories.
• Rest, leisure. You can ask if your partner has any hobbies and how your partner likes to spend his weekends. Maybe you will have common hobbies, which will be a great start for a conversation.
• Travels. How to fill awkward silences? Discuss travel is a vast topic that almost everyone likes to talk about. Share your impressions about your trips, places you visited, and new things you learned or saw. Dream and tell us what places you would like to visit.
• Silly but funny stories. Tell us about some of your funny situations in life, and just laugh at yourself. So you will understand what kind of sense of humor a person has, and you will also practice wit and improvisation yourself.
• Work and study. How to deal with awkward silences? You can talk about work even with the most humble and silent person. This topic can be a little boring because on a date you want to relax and not think about it. But still, it is worth discussing it to know what kind of person is sitting in front of you and how he spends most of his life.
• The weirdest date ever. Talking about exes, especially on a first date, is a very dubious choice, but you can discuss the worst or weirdest date because here you can find really amazing stories that will not only cheer you up but also melt the ice between you. Of course, you should not pester a person; how many times he met on a dating site or how many girls or guys he had, leave it for the next meeting.

Questions to break the silence

1. Have you ever traveled alone? Tell me how it was. Do you prefer being alone or traveling with a group?
2. If you could choose where to live, which country would you choose? Why exactly this one? Or would you rather not move?
3. Where would you like to visit? What countries or cities do you like? Which city did you like the most during your trip?
4. What was the last book you read? What was it about? Do you prefer e-books or paper books?
5. If you had to describe your life, what book would it be like?
6. What would you like to do before you retire? Do you have any big goal that you would definitely like to fulfill?
7. What are you most afraid of? What are your phobias? Maybe heights or insects?
8. Where do you see yourself in five years? Where would you like to work and what to do?
9. What is your favorite restaurant or cafe? Or maybe there is a cuisine that you like the most?
10. Tell me the most memorable moment of your childhood. Maybe some kind of prank or something that you remember the most?
11. How do you usually spend your Saturday evening?

How to avoid awkward silence on a date?

• Smile. Do not be afraid to stop the conversation and look for words to fill the hanging silence. Instead, remember some good moments in your life and tell an interesting story. In addition, your smile will gently convey your pleasant mood to the interlocutor.
• Give thanks. No need to grind out conversations on uninteresting topics or discuss banalities like the weather; it’s better just to express gratitude to your interlocutor. You can say something like, “Thank you for inviting me to this cozy restaurant and for the warm/heartfelt conversation. It's nice to even just be silent with you.
• Ask a question. This is the simplest. Ask a question about life, childhood, work, travel, and anything else. And if you don’t know what to ask at all, the entire previous section of the article was especially for you.
• Intrigue. Before heading out on a date, come up with a few ideas to spice up any conversation and fill the gap. Use the latest news, interesting events, famous books, and popular events. To continue an interrupted conversation, you can cryptically say: “Do you know what thought just occurred to me?

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