10 Tips For Dating a Local Woman Abroad
Going out with locals when you are traveling can be a very positive experience - and a very heart-breaking one. Here are 10 tips that will help you make the best of your relationship with a local woman abroad, no matter how long it lasts.
1. Make sure you are both on the same page.
Establish clear expectations from the start. If you’re just looking for a fling, let the other person know your relationship has an expiration date. However, if you are ready to work on a long-distance relationship in the future, make sure she realizes you’re serious about it.
2. Have a distinct social circle.
When you’re abroad, it’s incredibly easy to fall for a new friend, but try to avoid making this mistake. You and your love interest need to have separate friend groups, so that in case your relationship doesn’t work out, you won’t have to face the tough choice between new friends and a former girlfriend.
3. Don’t stop learning her language.
Even if the local woman you’re dating speaks perfect English, continue learning her native language. It will signal your interest in her culture and help you two feel closer.
4. Don’t exoticise your relationship.
Don’t comment on her “strange” accent, unusual appearance, or the “weird” food she enjoys. The more emphasis you lay on your cultural and linguistic differences, the more distance there will be between you.
5. Remember that she may be exoticizing you too.
Don’t eliminate the possibility that the local woman you like has found you interesting just because of your nationality or exotic looks as well.
6. Don’t use her as a free guide or a language partner.
Don’t go out with a local just because you want to have some language practice or explore the city for free, it just isn’t nice.
7. Don’t criticize her country.
Your new girlfriend is very likely to get insulted if you, a foreigner, get too opinionated about her country and culture. You don’t have the life-long experience living where she does, so don’t criticize.
8. Stay out of a circumstantial relationship.
Very often your relationship with a local woman abroad can be a product unique to the location and the limited number of people to get involved with. However, be aware of the fact that it might not translate that well into your life outside that location.
9. Don’t continue your relationship after you leave if you’re not serious about it.
Be realistic about turning your romance into a long-term commitment. If you and your girlfriend are not sure whether you can put in the hard work into keeping up a long-distance relationship, then perhaps it makes more sense to break it off before you leave.
10. Be realistic about keeping it up.
If you feel like the connection between you and your significant other is more than just a fling, discuss going long-term and the possibility of one of you moving to the other person’s home country. No matter how much you think you love each other, the challenges that come with moving to another country will put your relationship to test, so make sure you are ready to tackle them and are dead sure your it’s worth it.